What's It Like to Move from Texas to New Hampshire?
/As of today (January 18), I have lived in New Hampshire for about eleven weeks. I knew I wanted to write something like this from the moment I moved, but I didn’t know how long it would take to get a sense of the differences between Texas and a more rural part of New England. In other words, what kind of impression does New Hampshire make on someone who lived in suburban Dallas for over 20 years?
The minds of those in Texas will invariably turn towards the weather. Texas is warm. New Hampshire is cold, especially in the winter. Interestingly, there’s a similarity of extremes between the two in that those who live in either one would say you haven’t really lived here unless you’ve experienced summer in the former and winter in the latter. Anyone can handle Texas in January or New Hampshire in August. You want to show me something? Turn the tables. Then we’ll see what you’re made of.
Well, I don’t know if the first three weeks of January qualify, but here I am, and I’m going to go ahead and make my observations.
First off, yes, it’s cold. But it’s not bone chilling cold. Just put on a coat. Now, ask anyone who’s grown up here and they’ll say it’s the mildest winter they can remember. Ok. Fair point, but you can only play the teams on your schedule. I live here today, and this is winter today. We’ve had one significant snowstorm so far, what the weather people call “plowable snow.” It was a foot and a half worth. It was in early December. It was fun, and since it hasn’t gotten crazy warm, some semblance of it is still here.
What is a FAR bigger adjustment is what the weather causes you to bring into the house – snow, salt, and dirt. Mudrooms are a NECESSITY, but no matter how you structure the transition, you’re going to track some of that into the house which you feel on your bare feet, and I can’t stand that, especially if it makes its way into your bed. It’s always the little things and that’s a BIG little thing. You can tell by the all-caps.
My second observation concerns population. The difference is stark. Collin County, where we moved from, has almost 1.2 million people. The entire state of New Hampshire has 1.3. There are approximately 65,000 high schoolers in Collin County. The state of New Hampshire? 135,000. The suburb of Wylie (60,000) has more people than Concord, the state capital (44,000).
But it’s not just volume. It’s also distribution. One million of those 1.3 live between Concord and southeast to the Massachusetts border. That leaves 300,000 for the rest of the state, and you can tell. Traffic, as the world defines it, almost doesn’t exist. I actually don’t like driving on the highway because I never see any structures. State routes and back roads at least have houses. Those houses remind me that I’m not living in a post-apocalyptic arboretum.
Third, cultural Christianity does not exist here, and I don’t mind that one bit. You follow Christ because you want to do so, not because it’s something just to do. Sunday mornings are a lifeline. You don’t go out to lunch with people after church. You go to their home. Part of that is because there aren’t many restaurants but its more because fellowship is precious and inviting someone into your home is an expression of community. Yes, I miss Tex-Mex, but the intimacy more than makes up for it. New Englanders are supposed to be cold and standoffishly independent. Maybe, but that’s not the body of Christ.
Is it really as hostile here to the things of the Gospel as it’s made out to be? I would say it’s clear that it’s not Christian friendly like it would be in the south. Sometimes that comes out in the form of aggression. There’s a church in Hanover (the home of Dartmouth) that owns land and wants to put a building on it. The town is fighting them because they don’t want another church in their community. So there’s that. The sheer number of churches, especially those who have a high view of the Bible, is also considerably less. That’s partly a function of population, but it’s also because this is truly one of the least “churched” parts of the country.
Again, though, I don’t mind that so much. I think that because it’s uncommon to be a Christian, because there’s more of a latent passive-aggressiveness against being a Christian, following Christ is more intentional. Not that pastoring is 100% synonymous with coaching or teaching but any coach or teacher will tell you that it’s more fun when they get to work with someone who wants to learn. There’s a hunger here that cannot be removed from the fact that those who offer food are fewer and far between.
There’s a lot more I could talk about. Interstate exits are known by their numbers not their names. Very few people care about college football. The words “mud-season” come up a lot. I’m curious to see it. I genuinely fear black-fly season and the tick is always in the back of my mind, but that’s more a product of being me than moving from Texas. Unless you have a woodstove, you need a generator, and since our water comes from a well, we need to get it tested every few years.
All in all, anywhere you live has something. You learn the rhythms. You get used to it. I will say that I’m looking forward to being able to look forward to each season as being different and having different things to do, as opposed to dreading July and August. This Ohioan turned Texan (who was born in Connecticut) turned Granite-stater officially gives New Hampshire two thumbs up!